This week I’ve found there’s been a bit more client soul searching than normal.
There’s a lot more to personal training than just the physical aspects. In fact, in reality in a lot of cases, it’s more the mental side that takes precedence.
As a coach I try to help clients to find their own solutions, by asking them the right questions and teasing out realistic solutions.
It’s not always an easy process especially with emotive subjects.
It obviously depends on what type of person you are but I believe to get anything done well, you need a strong impetus and matching drive.
This quote by Roald Dahl sums it up perfectly;
“I began to realize how important it was to be an enthusiast in life. He taught me that if you are interested in something, no matter what it is, go at it at full speed ahead. Embrace it with both arms, hug it, love it and above all become passionate about it. Lukewarm is no good. Hot is no good either. White hot and passionate is the only thing to be.”
I’ve been motivated to achieve at many points of my life, but what was it that stoked that fire in my belly for some goals more than others?
I had friends who said they wanted to do a bodybuilding competition but never did. I can tell you from experience, it’s extremely difficult and all encompassing on many levels, but I did it because I said I would to others, and myself.
I wanted to prove I could go through all the training and really hard dieting, to do what I set out to do. It took months and months of preparation, deprivation, even annihilation (!) but I did it because I was compelled to go through with it – internally. I had agreed with myself and was totally committed 110%. I was driven and had huge impetus to keep going.
Did I feel like giving up sometimes- yes!
Did I really want to live off protein powder, chicken breast, broccoli etc for months – No!
The fire, the drive, the impetus, kept me going!
I truly believe, If you really, REALLY, want it that bad then NOTHING will stop you, and I mean nothing. It all depends how much you are prepared to sacrifice in able to get there. It’s a balance of many factors and if it means a lot in your life then your life will need to be adjusted to reach your goal.
A successful path to your chosen goal is never linear, it’s a rollercoaster concoction of up, down, backwards and forwards and many other twists and turns along the way. Success is attained by learning from your mistakes and actioning on them in the right way.
So I encourage my clients to find what does, or doesn’t work for them, and get them to to find solutions that increase the chance of success.
I get clients to write down firstly what they’ve achieved so far, secondly specifically what they want to achieve and then ask what they feel they need to do to attain them.
The drive and impetus is obviously very important in attaining goals but it’s the journey along the way that’s critical for the learning process and therefore personal understanding.