“Don’t be afraid to dream.” The words of Wales’ football manager last night after winning against Belgium and gaining a place in the semi finals of Euro 2016.
OK, so most of my clients will not be dreaming of playing for a national football team (not England anyway!) and getting to a major championship final, but the sentiment can still apply to us mortals. Our dreams may be more conservative in nature, smaller but equally as important as Wales’ players’.
Dreaming about what you want (more likely day-dreaming) is like visualising yourself in a position where you already have what you want. This can be powerful; a recurring message to your brain that you are successful in your desires. In Rhonda Byrne’s book, The Secret, various philosophers talk about the law of attraction, of attracting good things into your life by habitual thinking of the things you want. By behaving as if you already have what you want, you are more likely to achieve it. The book suggests, for example, to lose weight, “don’t focus on losing weight, instead focus on what if feels like to be your perfect weight. Your current thoughts are creating your future life. What you focus on the most will appear as your life.”
I recommend ‘The Secret’ as a motivating, easy-reading guide to looking at your life in a different way. It covers many aspects of life – health, money, relationships, happiness – and helps in understanding the hidden, untapped power that is within us all to achieve joy. I read it when I was ill for a while and it really helped me to think positively about the future, and to feel gratitude each day for the good things I had. I focussed on feeling better, of being able to do more. I carried a card with me that I looked at every day with positive statements I had written down that were what I hoped to be doing a few weeks ahead. This imagining / dreaming was very effective at making me confident of recovery.
As the saying goes – be careful what you wish for!