Help IS out there

I feel compelled to write this week on mental health. At first I wasn’t going to publish this but it’s close to my heart and very prevalent at the moment, so worth talking about. 

I have heard of 3 young males taking their lives, in almost as many weeks, just from my clients, and those around me. 

I thought suicide was on the increase but actually the stats say they are at an all time low. (For males, since 1981, 2018 figures). 

This could suggest then, that we are perhaps more aware of these issues or is it they are just being reported more? 

I had conversations with clients one who’s daughters best male friend just took his own life, and secondly a clients son who even had to cut the rope of his best friend, to stop him hanging himself.

Absolute horrific, on all levels. 

Whilst talking through this with a client she was, not surprisingly, seriously affected by it all. 

We both were putting ourselves in this picture and thinking how could this be minimized with our own children. 

What could we do as parents to reduce the chances of this happening to our own? 

We both thought that keeping regular lines of communication open was critical.

For that person feeling able to talk, and for someone being there to just listen. 

I once asked a child psychiatrist client, when my kids were very young, what advice she could give to me as a young parent. She said these 3 simple things; 

Keep the communication lines open wherever possible. 

Don’t sweat the small stuff – save your worries and troubles for bigger issues.

Pick your battles- an untidy room is not the bee all and end all. Choose wisely what you highlight to argue about.

Of course, I realise that there is no magic answer or solution and sometimes it’s a chemical imbalance that can cause major personal issues, despite measures of help being put in place. 

I don’t know why, but whenever I think of these issues, I always think of Robin Williams. 

Such an amazing, kind, clever, witty, and altruistic human. 

I think of him with his hyped up comedy and then in contrast his warm welcoming glow and his smiling eyes. 

We now know alas, that, that was sometimes a mask to merely hide sadness underneath. 

And that is one of the hardest parts,  because we aren’t always privy to people’s deeper inner angst.

Whilst sometimes it might not always be apparent to all, I do really feel there will always be somebody there that cares, is able to listen and wants to help you. I hope you always have someone like that in your lives.

Here’s to all those altruistic, loving, caring people. You rock this world. 

Until next week…